Patients who are diagnosed with prostate cancer often do not think about sex after prostate cancer treatment and what their sex life will be like. Every man is different in how he recovers sexually. Each man’s ability to attain an erection after treatment varies. Erectile dysfunction is not a have or have not condition. There are many levels of impotency.
It is important that partners help their man feel masculine even though he may not be able to attain or maintain an erection. Not achieving and maintaining an erection and experiencing ejaculation does not mean it will be an unsuccessful sexual experience. Sexual partners can help their man redefine what a successful sexual experience means for both individuals.
A successful sexual experience means that couples connect and create a loving environment that brings pleasure to both individuals. Relearning how to make love means taking time for talking, touching, and loving.
Focusing on the erection takes away from the pleasure of intimacy. It is important to focus on what brings pleasure to your partner and that they focus on what brings pleasure to you. Going to a sex therapist may be a good idea and does not have to be a long-term commitment to therapy.
It is best not to have expectations concerning each love-making experience. Instead, couples should enjoy the moment and see where it takes each individual. Don’t expect everything you try to work. Find new ways to enjoy sex after prostate cancer treatment and how to share your sexuality. For example, change the time of day you make love, choose new locations, alter the lighting, act out fantasies, and change the ambiance of the room in which you make love.